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A
month later I was surprised when a still pregnant Rosa came back to my
office. She had decided to let the pregnancy run its course. Rosa spoke
an Mayan Indian dialect called Mong. Helena, Rosa's shy and petite eleven
year old niece, was the only translator available, and came with her to
every appointment. The conversations that followed as a result of this
terrible diagnosis would have been difficult enough for an adult, much
less a child. But Helena was mature beyond her years, a serious and thoughtful
soul. We relied on her completely.
So Rosa's pregnancy continued. At each appointment,
I expected her baby to have died. A baby with serious malformations will
almost always miscarry: miscarriage is God's way of sparing the mother
the pain of a full term pregnancy for an unhealthy fetus. However, upon
each visit, we found the heartbeat of Rosa's baby still loud and clear.
And the unsightly birth defects — nature so clearly and terribly
going astray — became more and more pronounced.
My concern deepened when Rosa's pregnancy
began to drive her blood pressure to dangerous levels. But Rosa steadfastly
refused intervention, even blood pressure medication. I couldn't help
but wonder if she understood what was going on. If her blood pressure
rose to a certain level she could have seizures and actually experience
brain damage herself. I would listen as Helena spoke to her aunt, and
wonder what was being conveyed. But Helena seemed to understand and share
my concerns. She had more trouble explaining her aunt's response.
Rosa went into labor right around her due
date. Many Guatemalans are stoic when it comes to pain, both physical
and otherwise. Rosa was typical. She didn't want pain medicine, and labored
largely in silence. The baby's head was abnormally enlarged. It was difficult
to deliver. Special maneuvers and a very large incision were required.
At last I held Rosa's baby. It was terribly
malformed — an enormous head, no eyes, one nostril... As I cut the
cord, the baby took one gasp — and died in my hands.
I remember Helena's usually steady voice
cracked when she told her Aunt that her baby had died. Rosa bore the news
in silence, just as she had labored. We stopped her bleeding and sutured
her incision. The nurse washed the baby and gave it to Rosa to hold. The
room was silent as I operated. No one said anything, no one felt anything.
The baby was growing cold thirty minutes later by the time I had finished.
Afterwards, I wondered why had Rosa chosen
to go through all this. Why take the path of more pain? Did she not trust
our diagnosis? Or was it something else?
An answer came three
years later. I was again in the delivery room with Rosa and Helena. This
time, Rosa's pregnancy had been entirely uncomplicated. Again she labored
quietly without pain medication. The baby came more easily this time.
I placed it on Rosa's abdomen.
There was silence in
the room just as with the first delivery. No noise. No emotions. Like
a breath being held. Except this time a baby began to cry softly. It was
the high quavering voice of a newborn saying "I am here, I am here."
Helena smiled. Like
sunlight on a cloud, her serious young face was transformed. A few seconds
later, she broke into laughter: a real child's laugh, the pure and happy
laugh owned only by the very young. She quickly stopped as though she
was breaking a rule. But she couldn't hide her joy.
Then Rosa, usually
stone-faced like so many women from Guatemala, also smiled, despite herself.
I watched as she cradled her beautiful baby. She stared at her newborn
as though not trusting her eyes. By a force of will her smile disappeared.
I wondered what she was thinking and feeling. It was as though she would
not let herself believe in God's gift.
The baby yawned. For
the first time in all her labors of physical pain and thwarted motherhood,
Rosa began to weep. And no translator was necessary.
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